Positivity for your negativity

I saw online that Mary- Louise Parker has announced she will be quitting the acting business due to all the negative comments by the public about her . Then,  I was watching the Bad Girls Club reunion last night (don’t judge me) and one of the women was apologizing for all the bad mouthing she’d done to the other women via Twitter.  She admitted that it was wrong, in the heat of the moment, and was only due to the women pointing out her own insecurities regarding her weight.  Had they just communicated with each other it never would have gone as far as it did and feelings would not be hurt on either side.  Then I log on to my FB and see more drama on here as well.  So I have this to say to all my ladies out here….I myself have been guilty of bad mouthing or venting on FB, Twitter, etc.  I know it’s wrong but when I’m in the moment that is my first choice of expression.  With that said, I think we all (including myself) need to limit these moments and consider going straight to the source.  Discuss the issues and if you can’t come to a solution then at least agree to disagree.  I know some people feel like you should keep your opinions to yourself but I embrace it.  Even if its negative.  I’m going to take what you say and learn from it.  Maybe it’s something I need to hear in order to grow.  Yes, it may hurt my feelings but I know I’m strong enough to move past it.  We all are.  We shouldn’t be afraid or embarrassed to express our opinions.  We should only be embarrassed if we’re not telling the person who it is regarding directly.  That is cowardly.  Now I’m not saying that you have to tell that person EVERYTHING.  There are some things that don’t need explaining.  (pick your battles)  However, if you have a true issue that you feel could be bettered by speaking out, do so.  Let’s not bad mouth each other via FB, Twitter, etc.  As women we need to lift each other up, not tear each other down.  And when offering criticism make sure your delivery and intent is pure and comes from a place of true concern.  I guess what I find myself preaching about today is positivity.  We all need it and we should all be sharing it.  Offer encouragement to those who need it, praise those who deserve it.  I was once told its annoying that I share when my sisters post something positive going on in their life.  All I could do is laugh.  If it is annoying  that I’m happy for the accomplishments of the people in my life and I feel like sharing it with the world then chances are you are probably not happy with something going on in your own life.  There are so many incredible women that I know and I’m proud of each and every one of them.  Sisters, friends, cousins, etc.  They are all phenomenal  women and deserve all the bragging that I do.  So keep that in mind the next time you see someone’s excitement regarding an achievement they may have just earned.  Congratulate and share their happiness with others.  You just might encourage the next phenomenal woman to stand up and take off on their own journey.  Oh and remember, if there is hope for all those crazy women on the Bad Girls Club…there is hope for us all.  Hahaha…love you guys!  Happy Wednesday!